Conflict surrounds us, at varying degrees, providing a guide to wether we are moving toward connection or disconnection, and we can use that friction as fuel.

Change, something we all love to hate, occurs when there are feelings and data that show something isn’t working anymore. These pressures though may not indicate exactly what to address. It’s through conflict that we find the depth of our connection or disconnection with others that allow us to choose what to prioritize. Jess Dewell talks with David Corcoran Jr. about Conflict: the midpoint between connection and disconnection.


Starting the Conversation…

  • There are many of us that want something, yet never take the leap.
  • What really is our comfort zone, our comfortable chair, and on to what we really want to do?
  • What causes conflict?

Host: Jessica Dewell
Guest: Kevin Corcoran Jr

What You Will Hear:

3 Reasons Conflict Occurs (and, conflict is just a disagreement).

Importance of managing and making sure we have conflict.

Proximity matters in encounters, and non-verbal cues matter.

Perspective: how we view the people we choose to be around and find ourselves around.

The way we show up can create (or take away) conflict.

4 Attachment styles and our ability to use that to bring awareness to how we show up.

Our identity bends based on mood, situation, and reactions.

How to find the edge of your comfort zone, and to remember you’ve already been there.

What connection feels like.

The importance of going to the gym (of life).

The search for personal value.

Start small, an example of how to engage in a comfort challenge.

The power of the seemingly insignificant.

Notable & Quotable:

Kevin Corcoran Jr.: Conflict is a guarantee in a relationship.

Kevin Corcoran Jr.: The way people manage conflict is more important than the frequency or the reason for the conflict.

Kevin Corcoran Jr.: If you are not having conflict, there is suppression of authenticity

Jess Dewell: We can be aware and we can see what we are attracted to and how we show up in a conversation.

Kevin Corcoran Jr.: Disharmony when we have two parts of ourselves are in conflict.

Kevin Corcoran Jr.: You will experience discomfort sometime in your life.

Kevin Corcoran Jr.: Purposefully put ourselves into comfort challenges.

Jess Dewell: We’re talking about how we show up.

Jess Dewell: Growth happens when there is conflict.

Kevin Corcoran Jr.:  Our muscle of resilience is built when practicing for future discomfort or future challenge.

Kevin Corcoran Jr.: Challenging your comfort zone teaches you that you are good enough.

Resources:

  • Where the Magic Happens!: The Science & Stories Behind Challenging Your Comfort Zone
  • The Survivors’ Club

Tags: relationship, conflict, disagreement, authentic, loyalty, self awareness, show up, practice, resilience muscle, compassion


Change, something we all love to hate, occurs when there are feelings and data that show something isn’t working anymore. These pressures though may not indicate exactly what to address. It’s through conflict that we find the depth of our connection or disconnection with others that allow us to choose what to prioritize.

Jess Dewell talks with Kevin Corcoran Jr. about Conflict: the midpoint between connection and disconnection.

You can watch us here, on youtube or Facebook LIVE 

Conflict surrounds us, at varying degrees, providing a guide to wether we are moving toward connection or disconnection, and we can use that friction as fuel.