Building leadership and effective leading requires courageous conversations.

The concepts are simple, yet the work requires diligence and effort. These days, the word “leadership” conjures many different meanings, depending on context. For this conversation, we will use presence, intention, and relationship to shape and explore leadership … specifically, servant leadership. Jess Dewell hosts Greg Aden to discuss the behaviors and relationships leading to highly functional teams.

Starting the conversation…

  • What is servant leadership? What are the common misunderstandings about it?
  • What is the difference between appeasing and serving?
  • What is a courageous conversation?

Host: Jessica Dewell
Guest: Greg Aden

What You Will Hear:

Why? Why the question ‘why?’

What servant leadership really is.

It’s all about choice.

The first step to open a dialog for self development.

Define the agreements that we work within.

Live audience question: How do we differentiate and approach between a leader who pushes me to be the best version of me, and the one who is actually just throwing everything on me?

Courage to speak up.

Appease versus serving.

The importance of consistency.

Question our work as leaders to find out how we can be better.

Live Audience Question: Everyone talks about leadership. What about followership?

The 5 pillars of servant leadership and courageous leadership.

Evaluate a situation to develop courage and move relationship forward.

Reminders, restate objectives, and keep going.

Be an owner for the way we act and feel.

Its about the long view, not short view.

The beachball metaphor to include multiple perspectives.

Measure the return on relationship and intention.

Notable & Quotable:

Greg Aden: It starts with what motivates us, that is our why.

Greg Aden: I wanted to know why I am doing is important to what we are doing.

Jess Dewell: When we use curiosity, we can have great conversations.

Greg Aden: The servant piece comes from the heart while removing obstacles to add value to [an employee’s] role.

Jess Dewell: Open a dialog to feel more solid in the place we are in.

Greg Aden: Appreciate where [leaders] are coming from.

Greg Aden: Results are an output of the end game, which is relationships.

Greg Aden: Muster courage through practice.

Jess Dewell: We have made an agreement to have a relationship in this time and space, and how we show up is defined by what we decide at the beginning.

Greg Aden: Part of the reason a leader has conflict is they are being inconsistent.

Greg Aden: Being kind and considerate at all times, not at all costs, at all times is something we can keep in front of us more often than not.

Tags: motivation, purpose, leadership, servant leadership, curiosity, choice, trust, dialog, boundaries, agreement, emotional intelligence


Courageous conversations are required for building leadership and effective leading.

The concepts are simple, yet the work requires diligence and effort. These days, the word leadership conjures up many different meanings depending on context. For this conversation, we will use presence, intention, and relationship to shape and explore leadership, specifically servant leadership. Jess Dewell hosts Greg Aden to discuss the behaviors and relationships leading to highly functional teams.