What was modeled to us directly relates to our ability to approach learning skills for success. Success includes using our own developed skills and strengths as well as the ability to relate, connect and interact with others. Who we know, and what we know them for is what make it possible to navigate problems and unexpected situation. Build and hone your skill to ask for help.
Starting the conversation…
- Asking for help is a skill.
- Let go of doing-it-all (eg. Superman or Wonder Woman)
- How do you admit you need help?
What You Will Hear:
Asking for help looks different in different situations.
Prioritize and shuffle tasks.
To learn, and take on something…or not.
Is the solution really the solution.
Define the gaps we have to have support from those around us to have more skills to draw from.
Balance our skills with the skills of others.
When do we offer our help to those that we see in need of help.
How open and receptive we are, and the people we interact with are.
Two different ways to ask for help: get a job done or to start building an idea.
When there is a lot of information out there…it’s easy to think we don’t need help, that we can find it online.
Model asking for help. We all have work to do.
There is a give and take to everything. Realistic.
Model empathy and sympathy.
It takes time to model. It’s a muscle.
Build and maintain a network to call on when solving problems.
Notable & Quotable
Theresa Robison: When everything is critical, and everything is overwhelming, I make a list and go to my boss and have them help me rank them.
Theresa Robison: There is never a day when a teacher leaves their job feeling like their job feeling finished.
Jessica Dewell: I decide what to do and decide what not to do based on my skills, time, and interest.
Jessica Dewell: What really makes sense here?
Carmen Rojas: Everyone has battle scars from times we asked for help and didn’t get it.
Carmen Rojas: I teach the people around me to help me ask for help.
Jessica Dewell: Even though it’s obvious for us we need help, someone else may not see it unless we say something.
Theresa Robison: You can not provide help to someone that doesn’t want it.
Carmen Rojas: Learn the right balance for professional and personal development.
Jessica Dewell: Each moment – I am all in.
Jessica Dewell: Avoidance for asking help: will they like it as much as me?
Jessica DeweIl: I ask questions to open the door to find out what help I can provide.
Carmen Rojas: We do things outside of work to get to know each other better – and to recognize the stress triggers we each have.
Theresa Robison: I honed my superwoman skills and everything got done…but I didn’t sleep and I had no life.
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