Depending on our experience, gender, race, to name a few traits, we can make more of an impact by consciously using all aspects of our communication.
Every single one of us requires a level of confidence to move forward to achieve our goals, and recognizing what obstacles we may face interacting in diverse groups we can build our authority and be seen as approachable and committed to our work. Jess Dewell interviews Andrea Kramer and Alton Harris to talk about how to increase our confidence.
Starting the Conversation…
- How do we evaluate where we are at and where we are taking our career?
- What can we do right now for a confidence check, and if we don’t like the result, what’s the first step to change?
What You Will Hear:
The importance of attitude in today’s workplace.
Confidence is knowing rejection is possible and we move forward anyway.
Authentic is a stereotype in itself.
Two elements of confidence.
Stories of impression management (to address stereotypes and biases of gender, age, and more).
The use of humor and grit to address stereotypes.
Traits and characteristics of allies.
The importance of male allies and male sponsors for women.
Audience Question: “I had a different experience, when I was not “bossy”, I was actually left out… so when I embraced my authority and nature things improved for me… My question is why do we always put accent on how women should behave?
How we view ourselves in situations to know when it works and when it doesn’t work.
Examples of disconnect that crop up between interpretation of the body language and verbal language.
The quest for authenticity includes improving our skills.
What we can do to self reflect and do a confidence check: power poses and mind priming.
It is BOLD to put our attention and actively increase our confidence.
Notable & Quotable:
Andie Kramer: One of the things about success and advancing in our career is to view success as an objective, a goal, and not to be afraid to take a step and be rejected.
Al Harris: Very often, if we are able to find within us tenacity we can put ourselves forward when we are unsure [about taking a step forward] , the next time we do it it gets easier.
Jess Dewell: Ask, ‘am I willing to put in the time and effort and take the risks to go after what I want?’
Andie Kramer: An element of confidence is to be prepared and to know what the objective is.
Al Harris: Presenting yourself, selling yourself to other people is a very different kind of skill.
Al Harris: The ability to present yourself in ways that other peoples perceive as a leader, is [the skill of] impression management.
Andie Kramer: You can’t forget what your objective is.
Jess Dewell: We can look back and find a time that we were in a situation to show up and step up, to show up, with the help of an ally.
Al Harris: Male allies are a key aspect of women’s ability to move forward with grace and decisiveness they need in order to succeed.
Andie Kramer: You don’t behave in a way that fits and allows someone else to be satisfied their stereotype, the reality is that sometimes when you confront people, you may need to bring in another edge to overcome the biases the other person has.
Andie Kramer: We never can forget the context we are in. We have to be considering and evaluating the whole situation.
Al Harris: A lot depends on objective, context, and situation.
Andie Kramer: The ability to dip into ourselves and to pull out different characteristics as needed is more authentic because we know more about who we are.
Al Harris: What’s important about confidence is that willingness to keep moving out of comfort zone.
Andie Kramer: The bolder we are the more opportunities we have to succeed.
Tags: confidence, attitude, authentic, stereotype, bias, limiting beliefs, behaviors, ally, mentor, sponsor, capability, talent, awareness, self monitoring, impression management, Girl Scouts, risk, perspective, assertiveness, context, communication, nonverbal communication, mind priming